And in most random book titles.... I came across an article while surfing the internet last week talking about "how to recognize your future ex-husband" Of course it had me piqued for a number of reasons, most obviously now that I'm divorced and have tried my hand at dating, I realize I still have some fears to deal with.
You see, the man I married was pretty much the definition of narcissist. In a sentence "It is difficult to recognize a narcissist because he (or she) spends all of his time acting, protecting his ego by presenting to the world a mask a false image of himself. "
After 2 years, I feel great about myself and wouldn't look back. But for the first year, I pretty much beat myself up everyday with things like "I should have known better" and though I'm much more gentle on myself and as cliche as it is, I still fear I won't be able to recognize the signs if faced with a similar situation.
This is where the book comes in. The article I read basically sums it up to the things you rationalize while dating. Of course it seems obvious, but how many of us are blinded in the moment? We'll see what else the book goes into and if it has any gems of info, but at the very least, it'll make great coffee table fodder when my girlfriends come over!